Counselling psychologist Athul Raj explains that people generally keep relationships private to protect their emotional space. It allows the bond to grow without external judgment, gossip, or pressure shaping it. “Privacy can also give someone the chance to process feelings, test compatibility, or figure out how to navigate family expectations. It’s a way of controlling the narrative so that work or personal achievements aren’t overshadowed,” he tells indiainexpress.com.

According to him, secrecy becomes harmful when it creates constant stress, guilt, or fear, or prevents honest communication with loved ones. And handling judgment starts with clarity about your own values and decisions. Raj says that when you are grounded in your choices, outside opinions lose power. Setting boundaries is crucial — deciding what to share and with whom protects emotional energy.

Kiara and her husband Sidharth. (Source: Instagram/@kiaraaliaadvani)

Raj elaborates that viewing criticism as commentary rather than truth helps create distance from negativity. Surrounding yourself with supportive voices: friends, mentors, or family who respect your choices–provides reassurance.

“However, when hiding a relationship is about avoidance rather than protection, it can erode trust, self-confidence, and emotional well-being,” he warns.

Striking balance

Maintaining emotional safety starts with firm boundaries. Raj suggests limiting exposure to social media, filtering conversations, and delegating stressful communications help protect energy. Grounding techniques like deep breathing, journaling, or mindfulness can calm the mind and reduce reactivity, he adds.

The psychologist also highlights that reframing criticism as irrelevant to your personal happiness helps maintain focus on the milestone. “Creating a supportive environment of people who uplift and reinforce positivity ensures that joy isn’t diluted by outside noise, letting the celebration remain personal and fulfilling,” he concludes.

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